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Jul. 16th, 2020

Blue Stripes

The Rules

1. Don't Be An Asshat.

2. No anonymous commenting. Since an anti-choicer chose to abuse my hospitality in allowing anonymous commenting (the usual level of courage shown by these fanatical misogynists, much the same as they're desperate to force birth on women, but have no interest in helping the women cope with the lives they've forced them to bear), anonymous commenting is now not allowed.

If you have a comment you would like added here, you may do so if you're a registered user with LiveJournal. If you're not, you can always e-mail me - but again, trolls should be warned that not only will your e-mail quickly go into a special folder, if you continue past the time when I tell you to stop, I'll start with making formal complaints to your ISP, and move as quickly as I need to informing the police. I don't fuck around with bigots and trolls.

More added as needed.

Mar. 9th, 2012

Blue Stripes

A little poesy to brighten your Friday

I composed these, all three, in a rush recently, about four hours before I was due to perform them at a local event (for reasons of scanty Internet anonymity, I'm not linking to it). Yeah, I write better when the deadline's in sight. They're all Shakespearean sonnets, because frankly those are the easiest, involving three quatrains (abab cdcd efef)and a final couplet, the volta coming with the couplet.

They are all dedicated to, and about, my partner; the final one is concerned with...adult themes and vocabulary (i.e., NSFW, in the sense that if someone's reading over your shoulder, I hope you know them well).

I.
Comes morning sun and shines upon our bed
Her absence first apparent in the form
Of sheets pressed by her hips, her breasts, her head
My hand lies on a place no longer warm.
Comes sunset and I’m bussing home again
The wintry day hurls winds as sharp as knives;
A sleety beat on nearest icy pane
The sad slow dance of border-severed lives.
Comes moon’s first glow, I cook for two and save
The extra for another dinner’s time;
A hermit’s life in this my modern cave
My solitary search for perfect rhyme.
But this sadness will not be a lifelong curse-
The details of my cure in second verse.

II.
A day goes by, then others follow, slow;
I wake, I go to work, then home once more
And day by day, my joy will slowly grow
Until I hear her keys unlock the door.
And then she’s here, the warmth of life renewed
Our bed again a warm and happy place;
We talk, we laugh, we play cards in the nude,
Our home once more a safe, restoring space.
My hand upon her belly, softly round
Her hand atop my own, her eyes half-closed
I slip down deftly tracing out her mound
And soon we are from two metamorphosed.
The cycle is complete, too soon she’ll leave –
The verse before this shows how I will grieve.

III
Warm fingers moving, palm a-stroke on skin
I push my nose among her tumbling hair
My nails draw traces underneath her chin
None but faint lines will show that I’ve been there.
An earthy lovely scent arises down below
I seek it with my nose, my tongue, my lips
Her skin takes on a scarlet blushing glow
Arms underneath her thighs, I grab her hips.
She moans, and gasps, and squeals, and thrusts, and holds
My head against her, forearms hard and strong
I lap, I dart, I lick and love her folds
She screams and writhes and sings a primal song.
I love her for her body and her mind;
And also that she’s much the same inclined.

Dec. 21st, 2011

Blue Stripes

This spoke to me

I was just reading this, linked from the Wednesday Blogaround at Shakesville, and it really reached me. Note that this link from which I've taken the quotation is about gender-related issues, childhood bullying, and the like; be aware of your own emotional state before reading, if those are concerns for you.
Supporting Gender Variance Every Day

I knew that broadening my students’ ideas of what was acceptable for boys and girls was an important first step, but to make Allie feel comfortable and proud of herself, I was going to have to go further.

For example, as teachers, we often use gender to divide students into groups or teams. It seems easy and obvious. Many of us do this when we line students up to go to the bathroom. In one conversation that I had with Allie’s mother, she told me that Allie did not like using public bathrooms because many times Allie would be accused of being in the wrong bathroom. As soon as she told me I felt bad. By dividing the children into two lines by assigned gender, I had unintentionally made the children whose labels aren’t so clear feel uncomfortable in more ways than one.
(Note that my musings below include an offhand and non-graphic reference to "light" corporal punishment, which was still allowed when I started school as a child; also an indirect reference to suicide - again, non-graphic and personally historical reference only)

Oh yeah. I remember all too well that first day of school, ostensibly segregated by sex but sharing a yard and part of a building, and my horror and confusion when they hauled me out of the girls' line and pushed me to the boys'. I wasn't stupid, I learned quickly not to dispute that, as it only led to unhappiness and a sore hand. It didn't reflect my own reality, and my parents had that same frustrated look on their faces when the headmaster told them, because it was hardly the first time, and no one trans* needs to be told it wasn't the last.

On and on it went, all through school, the army, getting turfed, university: fighting with The Man and the parents and the school and the world, all against myself...and gradually losing, the battle against what I'd known since earliest days, that "boy/man" wasn't where I needed to live when I grew up.

Funny how people think it's a choice. If it were a choice, would I have taken that path so tenaciously? Would I have taken arms against the sea of troubles, or just let the tide carry me off to the place I never belonged, to be unhappy until I gave up?

That was the choice I faced. To be me, or not to be. Is that a choice? For some, yes. Not for me. No moral objection, just not a choice I need (as yet - one never knows what the future brings).

Aug. 21st, 2011

Blue Stripes

Two observations about Doctor Who and Torchwood and their showrunners

Just re-watching some old episodes here, including one of my favourites, Turn Left. And two things struck me, about Russell T Davies and Steven Moffat. Now, I know that there are fervent camps on either side of the divide, but I'll admit, I'm agnostic about the whole thing. I think they each have their strengths and their weaknesses. There are MANY SPOILERY SPOILER THINGS IN THE SPOILERY BIT BELOW THIS NOT-VERY-SPOILERY BIT UP HERE. IF YOU HAVEN'T SEEN S4 OF THE REBOOTED DOCTOR WHO, AND DON'T WANT SPOILERS, DON'T KEEP READING. SAME GOES FOR THE END OF TIME AND TORCHWOOD: CHILDREN OF EARTH. DON'T SAY YOU WEREN'T WARNED.

NO, REALLY, SPOILERS (Sweetie)! :)

My first observation is that much of what I hear in complaints about Moffat's Eleventh Doctor seasons can, to some extent, be laid at the door of Mr. Davies. Consider: the final Davies efforts:

The Stolen Earth/Journey's End: the stakes are literally the universe, with billions of Daleks holding the pistol to the puppy's head.

The End of Time: Stop the Master, or the Time Lords will come back, and this time, it's PERSONAL. That is, the stakes are: the universe, with the Time Lords holding the pistol, et c..

Children of Earth: The terrible drug addict aliens are back, and if we don't let them snort our children, they'll exterminate the human race! That is, from a solipsistic human p-o-v, the stakes are the universe, with the 456 holding the pistol, et c..

Each of these is the note RTD chose to go out on. His penchant for always having to keep raising the stakes would make him a lethally bad or extremely lucky poker player, but it means that you're left, when the Doctor/Torchwood/someone saves the day when the stakes were so high, wondering: Now what do I do for an encore to that?

RTD chose to go out, in each case, with a story that pushed the risks to 11 - which made for some interesting TV, granted, but it meant that Moffat had nowhere to go but up. One of the rules I learned as a director in community theatre is that if you start at a high point, you've got nowhere to go, that is, if your scene has to peak with a huge fit of anger, you can't start the scene there and work only upwards, or your peak will be out of your reach.

Discuss amongst yourselves. Don't be rude.

Second observation: much of what irritates me about the endings of RTD's big go-big-and-go-home shows has been the lack of agency. Taking Donna's memory away, after the Doctor-Donna hybrid thing. Why not just ask her? "Hey, Donna, I need to wipe all this out of your memory, or the universe will end, is that okay?" And she gets to say, "Well, I don't like it, but the universe ending, so, okay." It's not much agency, but it'd make it a lot less...rapey?

Similarly, at the end of Children of Earth, when Jack sacrifices his grandson Steven (who looks, btw, eerily like my cousin, also named Steven, did at that age) to defeat the 456. Again: why not just ask him? Why not just say, "Hey, Steven, look, I know this really blows, but we have a way of saving the entire Earth here, every single human there is, but it's going to cost your life. Would you do it?"

If he says no, well, then they force him, as they did. But it's a freaking STORY. We can write it how we like. Wouldn't it have been glorious and blubworthy and awesome if they'd written it so the kid got to be brave, and choose?

Okay, that's your two topics. Be nice to each other, and to me, but express yourselves.

Aug. 9th, 2011

Blue Stripes

Bad times in London

I'm not going to drop links, you can find them easily enough. The areas where it started? They're the areas I lived in, when we lived in London back in the day.

All I have to say is, for me, this is the inevitable response of an entire class of people when the Invisible Hand has been holding their heads down the toilet for decades.

Maybe Marx wasn't so wrong about the dialectic. Class war seems a reasonable response.

Aug. 3rd, 2011

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Hurray!

Marvel has announced that the Ultimate Spider-Man will be Miles Morales, a Black and Latino youth, in the wake of the death of Peter Parker in the Ultimate continuity.

I think that's Completely. Fucking. Awesome.

Bravo Marvel! Small steps, but important ones.

To the racist jerkwads squawking about this: what, 99% of the fucking pie isn't enough? Greedy beggars.

Jul. 30th, 2011

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Just a tease

That's me. Just a tease.

Or rather, that's this post. I have some writing plans afoot, oh yes my dearies I do, I seem to be moving back into a "writing is okay with my depression hurray" part of my cycle again.

Watch this space.

Jul. 28th, 2011

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I find it surprising this needs to be said...

...given the name of my blog, but I don't view "immigrant" as a slur.

If you use it against me as one, I will very likely point and laugh.

In fact, I may well invite others to point and laugh, because you will be a Very Silly Person Indeed, and will have done something truly worthy of epic mocking.

For the dreadfully-slow-to-notice-the-point:

I am proud of being an immigrant. In both senses that I mean that self-label, I am proud.

I'm proud of being Canadian, I'm proud of having learnt French, because mon Canada inclut le Québec, et les autres francophones canadien(ne)s.

I'm proud of being English, too.

I'm proud of being a woman, and of the sometimes-difficult journey I've had to be accepted as one.

"Bloody immigrant?" Too right I am.

Wanna make something of it?

(cause I need a good laugh)

Jul. 15th, 2011

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Can I just say I LOVE THIS?

Cause, y'know, I LOVE THIS.

I tried something similar posting elsewhere for a time, but got tired of being whacked with narking about how "we can't tell, nyah nyah nyah". I'm willing to go with their assumptions, in this case.

Tip of the CaitieCap to my lovely buddy eastsidekate, who's just started (at the link) her blog project to raise money for trans-related medical care. I'll be guest-posting over there from time to time, and have a big post brewing for Shakesville on a related topic.

Jul. 5th, 2011

Blue Stripes

This is why I'm not part of movement atheism

(TW for brief mention of rape)

This post is dedicated to the bravery of Ms. Rebecca Watson - you may not have known the storm you'd set off, but I salute your bravery in both attending the con, and in speaking up.

ETA: I have specifically enabled anonymous comments, but anyone not on this LJ's friends list will be screened. Haters, just save it. Not interested. You won't get out of moderation, and I won't read past the first hateful thing I read.

This. (Uppity, Mr Myers? Really?)*

It will surprise few that my favourite take on it is Liss', over at Shakesville.

Why am I not part of movement atheism?

Because we are told that if we want to be part of the movement, we have to put up with the "clueless" sexism of many of our fellow atheists. So clueless they preface their remarks with "Don't take this wrong," which sounds pretty knowing-of-wrongness to me. But if we must speak, we must do so politely and calmly.

Because if we do speak up, politely and calmly, saying "Hey, if we're in $SITUATION, it's really not a good idea to be hitting on me," we are virtually pilloried, the rotten fruit of sexist slurs being slung from every passing privilege-denying dude, and from as many more as they can gather with their WAT ABOUT THE MENZ RAEG ELEVENTY posts and tweets and tumblrs andandand...

Because if we don't speak up politely and calmly, we are ignored for being too rude.

Because if we don't speak up "rudely", we don't get heard at all.

Because if we get heard at all, we're "distracting from our purpose", which we stupidly thought with our silly ladybranez was "equality for all".

Because if we dare to distract, we are criticized for drawing attention away from the Much More Important Sexism in $RELIGION, thus explicitly denying the central core of feminist thought for nearly 50 years, that the personal is political: our own experiences denied to our faces, told they aren't what we experienced, but what we're told we experienced.

Because if we talk about our experiences, we are likewise pilloried, and must be defended, ad nauseam infinitamque.

Because if we try to defend one another for speaking up about it, as we've supposedly been encouraged to do, the reaching for No True Scotsman fallacies would make the poet Burns weep (or Calvinball, as Ms. Marcotte put it).

But most damningly, that even in the home of free thinking and rationalism, sexist privilege can be so in-ground that one of my feminist siblings probably wrote this post in 1965 for a mimeo machine, or 1920 to be set in type on a small press, or any of a number of previous centuries and technologies, about the same kind of men, for the same kinds of reason. It would surprise me not at all to know that in some hidden cave somewhere, a woman's scratched drawing of her view of her world was carefully coloured over with a picture of how many mammoths some man had killed. And probably showed him raping her while doing it, as her "reward" for speaking out.

Because this is what rape culture looks like: women silenced, bad men excused by "good" men, and goalposts that will never stand still for us.

So yeah: This is why I stay right out of movement atheism.**

I encourage other women who've made that choice, or whose experience of misogyny leads them to limit their contact with movement atheism, to leave comments here. I say women, specifically, because while there are undoubtedly progressivist men who are staying out for the same reason, I want this to stand up as a post where atheist men in the movement can see just how many women they're leaving out, while they bleat on about how they want more women in the movement. Here's a clue, guys: if the reason you want more women in the movement is because you're at an atheist conference to get laid, you're part of the problem.

I'll be tweeting this post on @TheCaitieCat. I would be pleased if you'd be so kind as to spread the word.

* How thoroughly disappointing from someone I'd respected. And /sarc me no /sarcs, because there was no such indicator on the title, and it should have been all too clear that your readership remains strongly invested in their privilege, and this just basically told them they're right.

** Imagine that blinking, if you will.

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